Ephesians 4:29… Do not use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. NLT

Toxic words poison and sometimes even kill relationships. Words like, “I hate you” or “I wish I never met you” can cause irreparable damage. I know there have been too many times when harsh, harmful words have come out of your mouth toward your spouse and others. Lets all continually wor hard to choose our words wisely.

Sarcastic Words; Comments like, “Do I have to repeat myself,” or “Do I look like your maid?” seem like no big deal on the surface, right? But sarcastic words are sometimes just symptoms of an underlying unmet expectation that has frustrated a spouse for quite some time. They can be used as a cowardly way to “dig” at your husband and wife…poisoning slowly.

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Children do well when they see their parents working together. A good father teaches his children how to respect their mother, and this he does by respecting his spouse. He honors her views and does not argue with her in front of the kids. This sends the right message to the children that their parents work together, and they need to respect them both equally.


To avoid consequences of unforgiveness

Unforgiveness is a force that has the power to influence, affect or control you and your future negatively. This force is so deadly that it has ruined many marriages, relationships, careers, businesses, led many to their sick beds and many to their early graves.

This deadly force drains your energy, wastes your time for more profitable ventures. My friend, don’t give yourself the stress for something that is not worth it. Instead as King Solomon said in SOS 2:15 (KJV), “Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes”, so also, you should remove the little fox of un-forgiveness from your marital life.


At its core, love is a decision to be committed to another person. It is far more than a feeling or emotion as portrayed on television, the big screen, and romance novels. Feelings come and go, but a true decision to be committed lasts forever and that is what defines healthy marriages.

Marriage is a decision to be committed through the ups and the downs, the good and the bad. When things are going well, commitment is easy. But true love is displayed by remaining committed even through the marital challenges.